A
strong stench of raw sewage, crowded tin houses, depilated roads and hoards of
weather beaten faces welcome us into the heart of Mathare slums. In the crowd, we
spot Beatrice beaming with joy. She walks towards us, her gait radiating
strength, the only hint of her condition is the slight limp on her left. Beatrice
is a strong woman who has defied great odds; being able to stand on both feet
is nothing short of a miracle.
It
is a Saturday afternoon, I accompanied a couple of friends to visit Beatrice,
woman who has defied death. She leads us through a narrow street with mabati make shift structures line on the
side. She asks us to hide all valuables as we walked past a group of 5 young
men looking at us suspiciously. We later learnt they are members of one of the
dreaded criminal gangs that operate in the slum. They run all kinds of illicit
trades, cause mayhem and impose a ‘protection
fee’ on all households and business.
We
finally arrive at her place on the bank of a heavily polluted stream. It is a great
house by the local standards; complete with a broken toilet, single electric
bulb and a communal tap. Never mind water only runs on Saturday night. We all
pile into her minuscule living quarters, separated from her ‘bedroom’ by some old bed sheet. She is
so happy to have visitors over and even reveals it makes her momentarily forget
all her troubles.
After
exchanging pleasantries, she begins recounting her sad life story .Beatrice is
a mother of three boys. The first and second born are in high school while the
youngest is in lower primary. Her troubles began 14 years ago when she tested
HIV+ (positive).
Like all newly tested positive people, She had
to make a tough decision. Whether keep it a secret or go public about her
status. She choose the latter. A tough pick since back in the late 90’s the
society ostracized anyone who was tested positive. News of her HIV status
spread like wild fire all through the slum. In no time, the people she used to
hang out with would huddle together aside, point fingers and call her names. ‘Ako na mdudu’ (she is infected) they
would say. Then they began segregating her. Friends disappeared. Neighbours
would whisper in hush tones whenever she passed by. No one wanted to shake her
hand worse dine with her. They believed anyone infected with HIV/Aids was
receiving punishment from God for being promiscuous.
Preachers
from all over the city came to her with all kinds of promises. They claimed all
she need to do was to ‘plant a seed’
(give huge sums of money as offering) and have faith to heal. Despite receiving
lengthy prayers and planting numerous seeds her HIV status remained unchanged.
I
ask about her family, with a distant look she tells us how her mother is yet to
come into terms with her condition perhaps longing for the much-needed love. The
mother claims to be busy whenever she is bedridden and needs special care.
Since she cannot bend, a selfless woman who happens to be a neighbour helps
with the house chores. Another young man diligently refills her water jerry
cans weekly out of benevolence.
When
we ask why she limps, overcomed by emotion, she breaks into tears. The ladies
in our group embrace her in effort to console. I ask about the Gor Mahia
sticker on her cupboard in bid to get her mind off her predicament. Smiling again,
she tells us of her kids’ undying love for this Kenyan football club. They are
also into Tae Kwando. The youngest has a red belt.
The
eldest son studies and stays with a family in Murang’a. The benign family took
him in when she fell ill. The son was forced to repeat a class for studying less
than a month in that academic year. He spent all that time nursing Beatrice as
no one else was there for her.
After
regaining composure, she speaks about her cancer. She was diagnosed with
cervical cancer in December 2011. She has been receiving medication ever since from
a medical facility sponsored by the Medicine Sans Frontiesres (MSF) in Mathare.
She is on a list of those awaiting surgery to take out her ovaries. What
frustrates her most is not knowing when this would happen and take away the
unbearable pain. Sometimes after meals, her stomach swells. Goiter is not
making things any easier. On her last doctor’s appointment, she learnt that the
wound in her uterus is now 16 cm wide and chances of recovery are slim once it
gets to 20 cm.
Before
the cancer she could buy feminine accessories like handbags, decorate them with
beads before selling them out at a profit. She would also visit other women
living with HIV/AIDS encourage them on living positively. Having been bedridden
for a greater part of the year her business has been severely affected. She can
no longer work to fend for her family or pay her bills. She now relies on well-wishers
for food. Her rent is two months overdue. Just last week the proprietor sent
someone to evict her. Sympathetic to her plight he gave her a week to pay up
the arrears.
We
unpack the foodstuff and toiletries we had brought and filled the empty shelves.
We then went ahead to raise some cash amongst ourselves to settle all her
overdue debts and some to revive her accessories business. She was so gracious
for this small gesture thanking us profusely. We promised to spread the word
about her condition and find people to sponsor her children’s education.
After
sharing some words of encouragement and prayers, she walks us back to the bus
stop. We board a bus headed back to town. Waving through the window, I see
tears running down cheeks. I hope this time they are tears of joy.
By Mark Maina and Reagan Nyadimo
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